Let us assume that we treat husband hunting as job hunting, juxtaposing you can easily find out why you are not married or rather how to close the deal.
Understanding your strengths
We will do best at where we excel rather than where we average in. The right person will use your greatest strengths and motivate you with the challenge, opportunity and growth that you seek.
Most women do not know their strengths hence they tend to go where they average at, for starters the competition whose strengths is your average will easily sweep you clean. You are constantly working to excel in where you average, takes too much toil on you.
Your strengths are where your ability matches your area of interest. If you like cooking (area of interest), and you are good are cooking (ability), that is your strength, find someone who will use your strength, someone who enjoys eating or appreciates a good meal.
Defining your objectives
Jack of all trades is really a master of none. You can’t be everything to every man. Knowing your objectives allows you to weed out the distraction.
Benefits of knowing your objectives:
Your competitors will be focused.
If you don’t have an objective, you do not know what direction you want to go in, the man will not know what you have to offer, and you will become confused with what you are selling, I mean offering. 😉
Once you know your objective, (which should be marriage at a specific time to a specific kind of man) it will drive all other things on your resume (or requirements)
Elements of your marriage objective
The kind of man you expect to marry:
Know your level: Don’t expect to marry a man with a PHD if you are a high school dropout.
Know your role: What you are bringing and what you expect to get? There is nothing wrong with expecting certain things from a man especially if you know what you are bringing.
Know your area: Where you intend to find that man? Don’t go looking for a god-fearing man in the nightclubs.
Your greatest strengths:
Your strengths are where your ability matches your area of interest. If you like cooking, and you are good are cooking, that is your strength, find someone who will use your strength, someone who enjoys eating or appreciating a good meal.
Results you expect to produce
Marriage to a specific type of man at a specific time.
Please be realistic.
Develop your resume
A well organized presentation of relevant information specifically targeted toward your objective.
It is an overview.
Research your marketplace
Explore and collect information on a number of options that might fit your objective. Be flexible, there are a number of options.
Setting your sight on a brother, who doesn’t say hi is not number of options.
Develop relationships with a network of people who can give you links or introduction to the man of your dream. Hanging out with looser will definitely get you introduced to more losers.
Expand your network, if you want to marry a millionaire and have no millionaire friends, network with people who know millionaires.
Negotiating and closing the deal
This part I will have to hold out on.
This is a tongue in cheek. LOL